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Re-Wire
Your Libido
Our libido is the sex drive responsible for the survival of our species. This drive developed way back in our ancient ancestors and it is the primary reason that we exist today. It “forces” us to procreate. In ancient times we reacted to our libido in an instinctive, “animalistic” manner and these animal instincts are still the basis of our sex drive.
But then civilization came along and our simple inherited libido began to be affected by socio-cultural pressures. These pressures affected our libido psychologically. Then the pharmaceutical industry started providing various drugs and supplements and that resulted in pharmacological changes within our bodies. Then modern sanitation and medications began to let us live longer than Nature’s design for our hormone systems, and that resulted in our “out-living” our hormone systems. Key female hormones almost dry up after menopause. Key male hormones decrease significantly during male Andropause.
Now some of us are a mess.
Our libidos have become sex drives that are impacted by a very complex interaction of four key groups of factors with several sub-factors:
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Physiological: physical and hormonal causes
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Psychological: Socio-cultural, religious, interpersonal relationships and emotional causes
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Aged induced
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Pharmacologically induced.
Yeah, we are a mess. The
experts have termed our mess “Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder”: HSDD for
short. It simple means that our
inherited sexual desire, our libido, has been messed up with all of these modern
pressures; pressures for which our systems were not designed.
Studies have shown that 43% of all women and 31% of all men in our
society suffer from sex drive disorders!
What
can we do?
We have learned that optimum libido requires:
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Physical health
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Hormonal health
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Healthy neurological systems
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Understanding of our personal psychological hang-ups
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Healthy emotions
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Supportive social setting
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Freedom from conflicts and boredom.
Since no one is perfect in all of these areas, all of us have, or will have, libido problems as we age. Fortunately most of our problems can be resolved. But we must take actions. You need to:
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Understand your personal Psychological Health Profile. Libido Rewired describes the techniques for you to do this.
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Define and document, to the best of your ability, the cause or source of each problem by following the steps outlined in Libido Rewired.
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Rid, or separate yourself from the source(s) of your problem, if you have not already done so.
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Complete the free questionnaire presented in Libido Rewired to get a computerized analysis of your potential libido problems and follow the resulting advice.
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Get blood tests as may be recommended in the computer analysis if the results show suspected hormonal deficiencies or imbalances.
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Talk to your doctor about any hormones and supplements suggested by the results from the questionnaire and start taking the ones approved by your doctor.
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Implement the lifestyle changes suggested by the computer analysis and approved by your doctor.
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Get counseling to help with the more severe problems that are too difficult for you to handle by yourself and for problems that you feel you need help in defining their sources.
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See your doctor and get medications for psychological problems that may be caused by depression or anxiety or other problems properly treatable with medications or supplements.
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Continue to seek information to learn how to overcome your problems and enjoy healthy sex.
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You must recognize that understanding your problems, and taking steps to correct them, is your responsibility. Follow the results of the computer analysis and rewire your libido. Get started!
ã UTC Publishing Company, Tom McQueen, PhD and Cheryl Fox, RN
You can learn more by reading our book: Libido Rewired, and by taking our free computer analysis to get personally tailored step-by-step actions to improve your sex drive.
